LOVE, MONEY AND MARRIAGE: Sincerity is what matters
I DON'T agree with Marisa Demori's view that women prefer to marry men who have money, "Money is vital, even in love" (NST, May 22).
I am not denying that there are still many women who would look for rich husbands, but can money really buy true love?
Love comes from the heart. To impress a girl and finally manage to win her heart is a perplexing pursuit.
Every girl behaves differently and it requires much effort and patience to convince her that you are her Mr Right.
Often, money alone may fail to succeed. Perhaps I was a bit lucky to have successfully impressed and married a girl whom I felt was attractive and well-mannered a quarter of a century ago.
She was then a young girl who hailed from a conservative and respected family.
Naturally, many young men in the village were impressed with her qualities and were keen to pursue her in order to win her heart.
Among the suitors was a rich man who even went as far as indicating his desire to buy her a house so as to impress her. Surprisingly, she rejected him.
She accepted me even though I was then a poor man who was 10 years her senior.
My salary then was below four figures and I was renting a room without a car. I had no money and assets to impress her, except for my sincerity.
To those young men out there who are still single, you don't need to be rich to impress a sweet girl to fall in love with you.
However, you need to be sincere, healthy and farsighted to impress her and convince her that you are capable of being a good husband as well as a wise father.
As long as you possess such qualities, slowly and finally you will find the right girl who will accept you wholeheartedly.
Although there are many marriages that have not survived because of financial constraints, there are also many rich couples who wish to terminate their marriages due to irreconcilable differences.
Not all marriages are made in heaven. We need a lot of sincerity, tolerance and finally true love to survive in a marriage.