LOVE, MONEY AND MARRIAGE: Union based on giving lasts
THIS is in response to Marisa Demori's letter "Money is vital, even in love" (NST, May 22). While it is true that, traditionally, men are supposed to be the breadwinners of the family, it is utterly disgraceful if money is put ahead of a relationship.
I hope that those tribes which put money ahead of relationships are only a few.
I have heard of many women who have loved their men even before they became rich. In fact, it was the support of a loving wife that built households that are today rich.
The letter stated that love is the most powerful force in the world and universe. It is contradictory then to say "money creates love". The institution of marriage should be one of faithfulness in spite of the circumstances.
It is hard but, nevertheless, necessary. The world was created in "love" without the use of money. The existence of love should rightfully ensure that the needs of a relationship are met and that includes money.
A woman will never give money to a man? Where is the place then for love, trust, hope and faithfulness? Is money and love, a one way traffic that begins with the man? How sad if it is. Most men know their responsibilities but to say that men cannot be in a loving relationship without lots of money is really a robotic stance. The love of money has brought on mankind, the following:
CHANGING of allegiances not based on principles;
LOSS of morals
And money is no guarantee of a lasting relationship. If it was, more Hollywood marriages would last. Money can get you fame, power and even cures for some ailments, but it will never outlast the power of love.
Money can't buy true love. In a sense humans are insatiable. That insatiability can only be cured by perfect love.
Do you have the same amount of glee that you first had when your i-phone was new ? No! True love is a destiny. It comes after many trials and temptations. Your spouse might have been a Sela Ward or a Brad Pitt, when you first married; How does he or she look like now?
Greed comes about because of a lack of love. Because of a lack of love, shortages become apparent. Love ensures that in a poor family of say seven children, a piece of cake is shared equally. In a world full of love, there will be no lack. And, if you believe in God, giving will be rewarded in miraculous ways.