MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE: Think of the impact on children
I REFER to the letter "Think carefully before you get married" by David Tih (NST, June 21).
It is true that marriage is a partnership in which two people of the opposite sex promise to love and live together forever. But, unfortunately, what we are witnessing is just the opposite. It is no more a lifelong partnership but, instead, a temporary contract.
What else do we say when 33,788 out of 207,553 marriages ended in divorce in 2010?
The maxim, "marriages are made in heaven", is being proved wrong by young people who have no concern for family ties, religious beliefs or social consciousness.
Almost all marriages are occasions of pomp and splendour, causing tremendous financial strain on parents.
The money spent goes down the drain if marriages are not going to last. The cash presents are a waste of money, too, if couples separate soon.
Are separated couples willing to return the cash to relatives and friends? If not, aren't they cheating them?
Marriages are held in temples, churches and other places of worship. But if couples do not live together, they are disregarding the sanctity of marriage, which is solemnised in the presence of God.
The situation is even more serious and sadder if couples have children. Couples who want a divorce have no regard for their children. Separation means children are deprived of the care and love of both parents.
This leads to depression and mental agony, which may hinder their mental growth. This neglect amounts to throwing a child into a dustbin. Couples who have no love for children have no moral responsibility.
Furthermore, the parents of these people suffer in their old age.
No parent wants to see his son or daughter separated and living with the family.
Being educated should have a meaning. So look before you leap in marriages or separations.
Dr G. Johnson, Johor Baru, Johor