COPENHAGEN:Thirty years after Denmark became the first country to allow same-sex couples to register in legal unions, the world has become more accepting. But in 1989, it was a trailblazing move.
“It was a ceremony that takes place every day at city hall,” Ivan Larsen recalls. “But for us, for the first time in history two men could experience this ceremony.”
Ivan had met his partner, psychologist Ove Carlsen, three and a half years earlier.
On October 1 1989, the very same day Denmark first allowed same-sex couples to register in civil unions, Larsen – himself a Lutheran pastor in Church of Denmark – legally joined with his partner.
As the couple prepared to celebrate their pearl wedding anniversary, they recalled their vivid memories of that occasion with AFP.
It was a Sunday in the country’s capital Copenhagen and deputy mayor Tom Ahlberg opened the massive gates of the city hall to officiate the “partnerships” – the official term – of 11 same-sex couples.
Both dressed in cream-coloured suits, Ove wore a pink bow tie, Ivan wore a blue one, and at 42 years old they became the second couple to formalise their union.
The first was Axel and Eigil Axgil, 74 and 67 years old at the time but now both deceased.
“We had been told that you can have 25 guests with you at city hall,” said Ivan Larsen. “We had three.”
“Because of the journalists,” his husband added.
Following the ceremony the newly joined couples were greeted by enthusiastic supporters throwing rice.
Although it was in stark contrast with their modest everyday style, Ivan and Ove embraced the media spotlight their historic union provided.
“We thought it was necessary to talk about what was happening in Denmark ... to spread the message: it’s OK and it was possible,” Ove Carlsen said.
“It was a pioneering act to get married that day,” Ivan Larsen said.
In Denmark “until 1866 homosexuality was punishable by death and one couldn’t be openly homosexual until 1933,” Larsen explained.
True to the Danes’ progressive reputation, civil union was in most ways equal to marriage in respect to the law – but the right to adopt was excluded.
“As long as it didn’t touch the symbolic realm of reproduction and family it was OK,” Michael Nebeling Petersen, a lecturer in cultural studies at the University of Southern Denmark told AFP.
The idea behind the law, he said, was above all to offer financial security for homosexual men, allowing them to inherit from each other at a time when AIDS was spreading fast.
“It was first of all practical,” Nebeling Petersen said.
Since it still wasn’t technically a marriage, ceremonies could not be held in most churches and the partnerships were not recognised by other nations.
Between 1989 and 2012, 7,491 civil unions were formed. And in 2010 same-sex couples were granted the right to adopt.
In June of 2012 the civil partnerships were abandoned in favour of new legislation allowing same-sex couples to get married just like heterosexual couples.
Soon after that law passed, Ivan and Ove were wed by one of Ivan’s colleagues.
By that time, Denmark was no longer leading the way.
Same-sex marriages had already been adopted by several other countries, including Belgium, Canada, Spain, and the Danes’ Nordic neighbours Norway and Sweden.
The first country to legalise same-sex marriages was The Netherlands, whose parliament passed its first legislation on the matter a decade earlier in 2000.
Almost 30 countries have now legalised same-sex marriages.
Ivan and Ove are now content to enjoy their retirement in their cosy apartment in one of Copenhagen’s quiet districts.
Despite the progress in gay rights however, they are worried about what they say is a rise in homophobia. In response, they urge people to be open about their sexuality in everyday life.
“Some people would say, ‘You always talk about being gay’,” said Ivan.
“No I don’t. I just told you that I’ve been to the cinema with my husband,” he added with a smile.-AFP