Zaid Mohamad
IN my line of work, I meet with all sorts of people during our programmes. Many of them are really positive and always eager to learn. Then there are also those who are the total opposite, and some intent on causing problems to other participants. I faced such a person recently.
The person kept falling asleep in class, claiming that he had a medical problem. Whenever he was awake, he’d taunt and jeer the other participants who were doing their presentation in class. It was so bad that many participants reported him to the Human Resource Department.
As trainers, we’re ready to face all kinds of participants including the disruptive ones. But this guy tested my limits to the max. I lost my mood and even cut short my session. The real victims were the innocent participants who ended up not getting the best out of their trainer. This reminded me of two types of people: those who bring out the best in you; or the ones who push your buttons to make you feel like screaming, cursing and swearing.
I couldn’t help but to compare the situation with our parenting styles. Are we the inspiring type, or the ones our kids love to hate? Do you recall the last time you felt inspired to do something? Have you been motivated to complete that difficult project because your boss had empowered, supported and encouraged you? Back home, have you also felt a similar inspiration to go the extra mile for your kids because you just want the best for them?
SOURCE OF INSPIRATION
Forcing them to do something may be the quickest way to get things moving, but it also creates pressure in the relationship. A combination of bad mood and careless words can disrupt the peaceful environment. A shouting match may ensue and instead of bringing the best out of others, we turn them into a beast.
In our daily interaction with the family, there are bound to be some misunderstandings, mood swings, raised voices and heated arguments. This is just part and parcel of life that any group of people who live under the same roof will experience from time to time.
However, if situations are left unchecked, it could lead to something much bigger and more damaging; if ignored long enough, it can even bring down the very structures that bind the family together.
Whether at work or at home, be the person who inspires others. Given our busy schedules, it’s easy to do just enough to get by. Our energy is being drained by those endless tasks at work and chores at home. But inspired workers and parents will keep going when the going gets tough.
Such is the power of inspiration. Now, inspiring our kids can achieve the same. As parents, we want them to achieve their fullest potential and enjoy the process of getting there too.
Zaid Mohamad coaches and trains parents to experience happier homes and more productive workplaces. Reach him at zaidi@smartparents.com.my.