THE first week of school is always hectic for parents, especially for those whose children are going to kindergarten or school for the first time. Around the country, there’ll be parents trying to re-adjust to new routines after over a month of relaxing break. It’s almost like a rude awakening.
Those peaceful days have now transformed into chaotic and rushed ones. Even those without school-going children will feel the pinch. For almost a month they’ve been able to drive on clear open roads to work. But that’s history now.
But it’s not all bad and things will eventually settle down. To help you cope with the first (few) weeks’ blues, here’s my list of common obstacles that we must know how to overcome.
MENTAL PREPARATION
It’d be great if you’d managed to prepare the children mentally about what to expect on their first few days in school. Tell them positive stories about going to school and clearly convey the message that you’re proud of them for being so grown-up.
Avoid negative stories — about other students or teachers at this point. This will create a bad first impression for them.
PHYSICAL PREPARATION
Ensure that the children have all their essential “back-to-school” items; that uniforms are ironed and shoes washed or polished. Make sure they have adequate stationeries and their books are marked with their names. These little things help to create a confident child at school.
Be patient during the early morning rush. It’ll take some time before their body clock adjusts to the new routine. Again, give plenty of praises and encouragements for their efforts to be ready on time. Prioritise having breakfast at home before leaving as this will help calm their nerves later on.
SOCIAL PREPARATION
Try to get them to stick to neighbourhood friends that they’re familiar with or were from their kindergarten. A lot of anxiety can be eliminated when they’re in familiar company. Meanwhile, parents can breathe easier knowing that their children are not alone. If they don’t have any friends, encourage them to make some as soon as possible. Parents can help by introducing their children to other parents and children in similar situation.
REST AND SLEEP
Probably the other biggest change experienced by families at this time is change in routine. The children will come home tired, and some may have to go to extra classes or religious schools. It’s important that they have enough rests in between. If they appear too tired, then a quick nap should be allowed so they can recharge. However, don’t let the nap disturb their other routines, including the bedtime routine.
In the evening, do whatever you can to ensure the children have sufficient sleep — at least eight hours. Far too many Malaysian children are sleeping less than that. Have an early dinner, cut down on television and switch off those distracting gadgets. Establish a proper bedtime routine so that they can wake up fresh the next day.
The next few weeks will continue to be challenging until a routine has been established. Till then, be patient and ensure that the children continue to receive an endless supply of love and attention.
Zaid Mohamad coaches and trains parents to experience happier homes and more productive workplaces. Reach him at zaidi@smartparents.com.my.