When I took a scarf to the counter the other day, I thought the salesgirl wore a beautiful shade of lipstick. So I paid her a compliment and said the colour on her lips looked lovely.
Her response took me by surprise because she obviously had selective hearing skills. She smiled and said: “I’m glad you like the lips. I had them filled recently.”
I was shocked and puzzled. I made a mental estimate of her age— probably 18 or younger. Surely, this is the prime of her life. Why would she need her lips filled?
According to a local paper, the most popular non-surgical procedures among 20 to 30 year olds in Ireland are lip enhancements, fillers and Botox. Could an obsession with appearance result in body dysmorphic disorder?
I hear of accounts where the woman sneaks away to get certain parts of her body “fixed” without telling the nearest and closest. Enshrouded in mystery, she exposes herself to certain risks.
Apparently, women in Paris were having lunchtime facelifts in the 1920s, even before botox came into the scene.
I wonder what makes a person go under the knife for cosmetic reasons alone? Could it be a boost to their self esteem? Could it be the idea that if they started cosmetic surgery at a younger age, the results would not be too drastic compared with when they go for a nip and a tuck when they are well over 50?
I remember laughing it off when my friend, a plastic surgeon, persistently suggested that he could do wonders with my nose. My motto is if it is not broken, then don’t fix it.
Besides, I have a low threshold of pain and a high level of expectation. Imagine waking up from the operation to discover a strange looking nose. The idiom “cutting off the nose to spite the face” would carry a new level of meaning.
Sometimes, a once-off experimentation with cosmetic surgery could also become an obsession. We just need to look around and see how artistes and film stars succumb to numerous types of plastic surgery, with some unfortunately ending up with a freeze-frame face (a.k.a. “bat face”) and Ronald McDonald’s eyebrows.
In The Love Song of Alfred J. Prufrock by T.S. Elliot, the poet delves into regret, frustration and an awareness of mortality as he observes how age has caused “a bald spot in the middle of his (my) hair”.
No one likes to grow old or look old. Growing old seems to be synonymous with aching bones and popping pills. Looking old seems to make you feel ugly. But then again, what is beauty and what is age?
It is difficult for the ageing person to tell herself that she is beautiful because the media tells her otherwise.
The perception of beauty and age is also influenced by societal mores and culture. Some will never reveal their age while others remain at 40, year after year.
We gasp at the first strand of grey hair and the onset of wrinkles. It is like going to bed and feeling like you are 21, and then waking up to discover that you are 60. Where did the years go?
Towards the end of her life, Audrey Hepburn was asked about her beauty secrets. She replied most graciously: “For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
“People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed. Never throw out anybody.
“The beauty of a woman is notin a facial mole. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows.”
Beautifully said.
Dr Koh Soo Ling was a lecturer at Universiti Teknologi Mara and now spends her days enjoying life as it is